As a tech entrepreneur who is rabid about giving outstanding service to my customers, I struggle to disconnect from work, even when I’m supposed to be spending quality time with my family. So much so, my wife used to constantly be “on me” about putting my phone down to engage with the twins.
I am not proud of this.
I recently spoke with my wife, Ayana, and asked her what she thought about how “present” I am with her and the kids now compared to the last eighteen months.
Fitting The Twins In Between WeMontage
The twins are twenty-two months old; when they were born two and a half months prematurely, I spent the next several months in a startup accelerator to launch WeMontage and was fortunate enough to raise capital. I knew I only had enough cash to last twelve months, maybe eighteen months, if things went well.
Right out of the gate, things weren’t going well.
The developer I hired, while incredibly smart and talented, had serious personal issues which made him extremely unreliable. Things got really bad when he changed the software and made the website unusable and, for a variety of reasons, I fired him.
It took me several weeks working with consultants to repair the damage he caused, during which time the website was effectively closed for business.
Needless to say, I was extremely edgy and under a lot of stress; this experience set the stage for my anxiety level for the next twelve months. I think this is the reason Ayana says I would, “Try to fit the twins in between WeMontage.”
I tried to fit the twins in between emails, twitter, Facebook, customer messages, and other work crap.
Like I said, I’m not proud of this.
Fitting WeMontage In Between The Twins
Ayana says I’m still obsessed with my laptop and iPhone, but I’ve gotten a lot better. She says I’m more engaged with the twins now-playing with them, reading to them, and taking them places. I think the transition happened once I became a stay-at-home dad/entrepreneur.
I now “Fit WeMontage in between the twins.”
I’m thankful I’ve gotten better, but I still have a lot of improvement to make. Being a great dad is extremely important to me.
Do any of you struggle to be more present with your family because you’re too wrapped up with your business? If so, how do you disconnect from work and focus on family?