Dear Parents of Young Kids: These ARE The Good Old Days

My twins recently turned three, and I had an epiphany: these ARE the good old days.

If you ever talk to people whose kids are grown now, you know what I mean. Parents whose kids have gone off to college and/or now have their own children will tell you how fast the time flies, and many of them long for the days when their kids snuggled up to them after kissing their boo-boo, or gave them a kiss just because.

Here’s a wonderful article that drives these thoughts home via The Huffington Post written by my blogger friend, Dawn Q Landau, titled, Dreaming Of The Days When My Grown Sons Adored Their “Mommy.”

 

I’ve also heard some parents describe the experience of having young kids as “long days and short years.” I agree with this, but think it’s not just the years that are short, but the months, too. 

 

#Cherish365

I am a work-at-home dad who takes care of the twins when they are not in day care twice a week, or at pre-school for a few hours twice a week. In between shuttling them to school, day care, library time, gymnastics, and sports play time at the Y, I am working hard to get much-needed PR for my biz, execute marketing strategies via email and social media, answer customer phone calls and emails, and respond to live chat messages from users on my website.

What’s funny is, I’m scrambling to write this article while the kids are at gymnastics class at the Y. Here’s a pic of them doing their thing while I write!

 

 

Adding to the challenge of all the work stuff I just mentioned, my business, while doing ok, is not exactly killing it to reduce financial pressure and let me be the provider for my family I envision. Thus, my gears are ALWAYS turning, thinking of ways I can get more website visitors and convert more users to paid customers, so I can pay myself more money from week-to-week.

As a result, my head is generally up my a$$, and I am not always in the moment (i.e., present) and appreciating just how amazing and adorable my kids are.

My good friend and super-blogger, Jennifer Borget, of BabyMakingMachine.com wrote a great article about the importance of cherishing every day and celebrating the precious moments we parents witness daily. To do so, she created the hashtag #Cherish365 and she posts videos and photos daily of her kids. I LOVE this idea and am making an effort to regularly do the same on my personal FB page.

Here are a few videos I’ve recently shared in my effort to cherish these moments 365 days a year.

 

 

Here are the twins at their 3rd birthday party singing happy birthday:

 

 

Here are the twins eating leftover ice cream cake from their birthday party. Can life be simpler and happier than this?

 

 

And here’s Zoe and me messin’ with Thaddeus while he’s sleeping:

 

 

These are all moments I know I will cherish years from now when I look back. But I am deciding to cherish them today, too!

 

The Inspiration for this article

I’ve meant to write this article for weeks. But the inspiration to get it done comes from the fact that today is the 95th birthday of my wife’s Grandpa, and my twins’ Great Grandpa; the twins call him Pop-Pop.

Pop-pop passed away over the holidays. But we are thankful he got to spend a lot of time with the twins and they loved him. I told the twins that Pop-Pop went to heaven and sometimes my daughter, Zoe, will randomly say to me, “Pop-Pop went to heaven, Daddy.” To which I reply, “Yes he did, sweetie.”

Pop-Pop was a WWII Navy veteran and he loved talking about his service during the war. During a recent visit to see us in Wisconsin, he wore his Navy hat and my son “borrowed it” and wouldn’t take it off.

Here’s a pic of Thaddeus wearing Pop-Pop’s Navy hat.

 

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Not only should we cherish the moments with our young children, but we should also cherish the time we spend with all our loved ones. Because tomorrow isn’t promised to any of us.

Happy birthday, Pop-Pop, we love you. Rest in peace.

 

Enjoy the good old days, everyone.

 

 

10 thoughts on “Dear Parents of Young Kids: These ARE The Good Old Days

  1. Aw, so sorry for the loss of your wife’s grandfather, but love the idea of enjoying each and every moment. So trying to do more of that here now myself and you are these really are the days, as I have a feeling when I blink this, too shall pass sadly.

  2. Such a heartfelt article, that truly hits home. I literally had to change my chat visibility this evening in order to be on time to read a bedtime story to my girls ; “The Royal Diaries of Nzinga”. Great reminder to take a moment and realize how quickly these moments escape us and to truly cherish them daily. Thanks for sharing .

  3. James, this is a sweet, sweet article.The kids are adorable, but it’s the message that really strikes a nerve. I think it’s really hard to truly embrace and “get” the message while you’re “in it,” which was part of my point, in my piece. We all mean well; we all want to be good, present, tuned in parents, but it’s really hard, while you’re in the the midst of actually raising and providing for your family. Whether you work outside the home (and I SO appreciate hearing from a dad that is at home!) or a SAM or SAD, you’re working! You are in the fray! It’s a really tough balancing act!

    Another point that I think we bloggers have to deal with, that you discuss briefly here, is how to share our children, within our roles as writer/bloggers. I started my blog when my kids were all teens and they were clear from the start: “this is off the record, Mom!” Many of my blogging friends with younger kids have learned over time, that as their kids become more aware, they do not want their images (my daughter only allows a very limited number of photos and none of my grandchild– as seen in the repeat photos I use; while my sons area bit less concerned) or stories put out there. When your children are as young as yours, sharing their world is the heart of your material. I am in a slightly different place as a parent blogger, in that I put much of it thru’ my lens… a lot of hindsight, or vagueries, to maintain their wishes. I LOVE the idea of #Cherish365, but my kids would forbid it, and I have to respect their boundaries, as much as I want to express my experience. It is one more of these nuances that arise from the various stages of parenting… combined with our desires to express ourselves and find our own passions.

    Long response… big topic! Thanks for including my work in your discussion, James. It’s a subject that I think leaves a lot to be explored, and I enjoyed reading your take on this.

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